The Overfunctioner / Underfunctioner Dynamic in a Romantic Relationship

The Overfunctioner / Underfunctioner Dynamic in a Romantic Relationship

There’s a particular kind of imbalance that doesn’t announce itself loudly.
No explosive fights. No obvious neglect. Just one person quietly doing more and more until the relationship begins to feel heavy. This is the overfunctioner/underfunctioner dynamic. One person anticipates needs before they’re spoken. They track schedules, moods, logistics, emotional repairs. They take responsibility not just for tasks, but for the health of the relations…