I never realized how much I hold my breath. Even now, typing this, I’m doing it. But now I have something that helps snap me out of it: an alarm on my phone — three deep breaths, one time a day — to remind me to breathe. It came home with me from Velocity Black‘s Rituals of Renewal, a three-day wellness retreat at Montage Healdsburg. I learned this trick from one of the special guest, Jhenè Aiko. I was invited on this retreat, and the main reaso…