Most conversations about aging focus on the loss of health, memory, independence, or usefulness. But elderhood is about something deeper. It is a distinct phase of life that asks “What matters now? What do I still have to offer? What am I ready to let go of?” Seen this way, elderhood becomes a practice of presence. Elderhood is defined in three stages. The Young-Old (ages 65–74, or the “golden years”) begins around retirement. The Middle-Old (ag…